Why It's Ok To Say No: A Ballad
Hello dear ole internet people, how's it going? Having a snazzy day?
I totally am, I got my hair chopped off and I am living the easy. breezy, beautiful covergirl life.
But even though my luscious locks are popping I am here with an announcement for the internet.
If you were paying attention and being the stalker I hope you are, I recently posted an article on how to friendzone someone. Great advice, no?
However it has come to my attention that there is still an issue with saying no to dates.
And, I am here to tell you that IT'S OK TO SAY NO.
In my previous post I jokingly said how I was the reject queen, how my friends laughed with how many times I've said no to a date. But even though I have people that joke about it, there's still some cruelty there.
I've been called shallow, rude, mean, a female dog, and countless other things because I decided to say no to a date.
Or, and my personal favorite, crazy, because I am missing out on free food.
Free Food?
You think that I am going to go on a date with someone just for the sake of free food? 1) I would feel awful eating that food because I was not enjoying myself and knowing that I was using the guy, 2) I got food at my own casa thank you very much, and at my casa I can eat and watch Vampire Diaries.
There's just this little veil hanging around everyone's heads that you have to say yes to a date, listen you do not have to say yes to a date, and saying no does not make you shallow or rude or crazy, it shows that you have free will and can choose how you wish to spend your time.
And I don't know if it's a sexist thing or not, but I know when someone asks me on a date and I don't want to go, everyone says, 'be nice, Brooke, say yes'
My question is, why do I have to be nice? If I do not want to go on said date, I shouldn't have to go on said date. And this could be for any reason whatsoever, I can say no, and people should respect that answer, whether that person asked me or the people who know about the situation.
So, yes, say no. Say no like your heart depends on it.
If you don't want to go, don't go, tell people you don't wish to go on the date, you have no obligation to go on a date with someone just because they asked.
It's not like you are going to enter a Ponzi scheme just because they ask. Make your own decisions, stick by them, and take that burden off your shoulders.
Hopefully, we can move pass the fact that it's ok to say no to a date, and so people don't have to worry about it.
Now, listen I've been on my fair share of awful dates (there are proximately 5 bad dates, that I'd love to share at a later date) and I wish so badly that I had said no, there were times that I even said yes because I didn't want to hurt the person's feelings or get called names by those around me.
I would much rather just hurt those guys feelings than to ever live out those dates again.
So, say no. Say it like Meghan Trainor in her song NO circa back to 2016.
I'll actually leave the link here. So you can listen to it while reading this post.
Sigh, yes that was great to type out, and I know this post was a tad bit serious which strays a bit from my usual Damon obsessed path, but I felt like it was needed and tied well with the friendzone article. And as I mentioned in the friendzone article, say no, but be nice about it please!
Ok people let me know if you've said no recently (and in a nice way!) I want to see the evidence of free will, thank you very much.
Ok, ciao.
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